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Bare naked, finally

September 23, 2010

Just read Te’Kia’s newest poem, “She Wears Her Hair“.  What a lovely revelation! What a thought!  Te’Kia references  her inspiration as a video that I just watched.  I just had to share it with you all.  I think EVERYONE ought to see this and think about it.

I have been plagued with vanity all my life.  I couldn’t go anywhere without makeup. My hair was straight as a stick until chemo, and either curled too much, too little, or fell in the slightest moisture.  Now I have strong cowlicks and curls on one side only.  Like Te’kia’s poem says, I have always been unhappy with the way I look.  Not just my hair.  And aging hasn’t helped.

However, I am now coming to terms with my aging face, skin, body.  At least I’m partially OK with being bare naked in public.  (Not the streaker me, but unmadeup).  I love the fact that Te’Kia and the woman and man in the video are “coming out” as themselves — free and uninhibited — and very, very real.  I wish that for everyone.

Please do not wait until you’re in your 60s.  It’s such a liberating feeling to be OK bare naked — warts, pimples, curls, freckles, moles, kinks, wrinkles, cowlicks, droopy skin, flab, skin color, age spots, gray hair — all those previously “unattractive” surface attributes that cause us to judge others and ourselves as “less than.”  Drop them!  They’re damaging — NOT signs of damage.  Our culture of youth and beauty and agelessness be damned! What are we doing to ourselves???? What are we doing to our friends, our children, our world????

I’m 100% with Te’Kia:

We are not the outward appearance, we are the spirit that is on the inside of us. That is what makes us who we are.

Te’Kia Miller

Thank you, Te’Kia, for being such a conduit of wisdom and for encouraging us all to accept ourselves as we are.

Nancy

P.S. I didn’t publish this pic yesterday.  I was too vain. He’s so gorgeous and I’m so, well, silly.  But it’s me.  Here it is, warts and all!

And one more – belly, double chin and all.

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11 Comments leave one →
  1. September 23, 2010 10:00 am

    Thanks for posting this, Nancy…reminds me of a month ago, when Jim and I set out to go blackberry-picking. I wore old jeans and a baggy T-shirt. My hair was in a ponytail (under a ball cap), and I didn’t have any makeup on. Well, the blackberries weren’t ready to pick yet, so Jim says, “Let’s go to Costco!” So we did. And of course, everybody I knew was there…I was more than a little horrified to be seen looking like “something the cat drug in”! To my great surprise, there was no story in the local paper on Monday about the spectre shopping at Costco on Saturday…

    Love,
    Wendy

    • September 23, 2010 1:33 pm

      Great comment, my friend the spectre! Have you ever seen the emails about attire at Walmart? I figure as long as I don’t look like any of them, I’m just fine!!!! (A little judgmental on my part, but then, some of them are obscene!) N

  2. planejaner permalink
    September 23, 2010 10:39 am

    Nancy–
    loved the additional pictures…
    and that feeling of acceptance…comes and goes.
    I still like my makeup, though.
    🙂
    jane

    • September 23, 2010 1:34 pm

      Me, too. Just getting a little more comfortable without it. N

  3. tekia permalink
    September 23, 2010 11:27 am

    It is a terrible thing that society places in our mind that there is only one type of beauty. I fell into it myself with getting relaxers for my hair, which started because I simply didn’t know how to handle it. It was so much and too much for me at the time and relaxers were the easy way. After a while though I began to see that, although it did help my hair, I couldn’t afford to keep getting them. Plus, I was restricted in the activities I could do. So I had to stop and I realize that I love my natural hair more than the relaxed version. I think sometimes we get caught up images we forget that we have a natural beauty. Wonderful and inspiring post Nancy 🙂

    P.S.- you guys look great in the pics!

    • September 23, 2010 1:36 pm

      Thank you, beautiful lady. And you are — inside and out!!! Nancy

  4. September 23, 2010 11:58 am

    Great post, Nancy. I love the photos! I’ve been to Te’Kia’s blog and read her beautiful poem already. Thank you for sharing.

    • September 23, 2010 1:38 pm

      Thank you, Carol Ann. I saw your comment and was so happy to know that you were reading her, too. She’s so wise for being so young. Nancy

  5. September 25, 2010 5:36 pm

    So true.
    i for one dont do anyting.
    i wash, shower brush my teeth and confont the world.
    .
    There’s nothing wrong with a few imperfections.This video’s so cool in every way.
    Really enjoyed it

    • September 26, 2010 7:06 am

      I’m so glad you enjoyed the video. It’s a great commentary on and protest against our battle with what the media terms “beautiful.” If we’d only just concentrate more on our own interior beauty. Sigh! We can be so very lovely.

  6. October 7, 2010 1:50 pm

    Lovely pics, Nancy! The love is evident and nothing else matters, does it?

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